2 truths, 1 lie meme ANSWERED!!!

This is long over due, I was tagged on the 2 truths-1 lie meme, I posted mine here

I must tender my unreserved apologies for not updating my blog in a long time, what were my reasons?........nothing really, I have worked on some things I wanted to post, but just did not get to posting them, I guess I lost my flow, but I have been enjoying reading all your beautiful posts.

Well, no one got the answers to the meme right..I was planning to give those who had the correct answers surprise gifts that would make even the GNG green with envy...LOL!

So here are my answers:

1) I was bugged in the school magazine when I was in the Universtiy is a truth!

It was my 4th year in the university......a friend brought my attention to the school magazine where i was bugged; it had my first name, a variant of my surname, my department, my year of study and where I live. It was something silly about me with 2 boyfriends, "getting all I wanted from them", and I should be satisfied and stop pretending etc......interestingly, I do not remember all now, but back then in school and for some years after I could recite the whole article for you by heart.

I need to emphasize here that I was a very quiet, bashful and scared student, my routine in school was classes-church fellowship-hostel-friends-classes. I didn't have much of a social life (I enjoyed spending time with my friends though)
So I was the last 'kind' of person you would expect those 'kind' of guys that wrote the magazine would know, talk less of bug, that bug really affected me, it came as a rude shock.
I still remember always feeling like the ground should open up and swallow me whenever I saw a copy of the magazine with students. I remember walking in to the campus and thinking everyone now knew me, everyone was pointing at my direction and that everyone was talking and gossiping about me.

I also heard some people in my school fellowship were saying all sorts about me, …..things like 'dont mind that sister, that is how some of them pretend" talks. I heard of how my topic was always top of agenda in hostel gists....and poor me, I didn't even have an idea of what the bug was about, I didn't even know what they were talking about.

I learnt some of my class mates decided to take it up, went as far as going to the SUG ( student union government) building to challenge those that wrote that article and others did a lot of other things.
Looking back now, I guess it was one of those things that toughened me up, I also knew the devotion of friends, their faith in me and the fact that some people believed in me unreservedly.

NB: I was told one of the editors of the magazine had some issues with a friend of mine and decided to use me to get to him( that friend's name was also mentioned in the bug too), whatever it was , I still wonder why it was me they choose to bug in the school magazine!

2) I have read the whole of my bible at least once before, I mean from Genesis to Revelation....is the LIE!

I guessed everybody would think this as the truth; I am ashamed to say that I have not been able to read my whole bible from genesis all the way to revelation. True, I have read a lot of the bible, taught bible classes, but I have never been able to finish reading the whole bible no matter how hard I tried. I also attempted the millennium craze of Cover2Cover, I never got around to finishing it.

I am humbled that a lot of people believe I've actually read my all through my bible.
I really hope to read my bible from genesis to revelations soon, and this time, not just as a religious act or to prove a point, but a study dedicated to knowing the thoughts of my father and my God.

3)I have fallen out of a very fast moving car on a major highway before is of course a truth!

I was still in primary school, in Lagos, I remember it was a Sunday, we were going back home from church, my father was driving, my mum seated beside him, I was sitting behind ( where we all know as "owner’s corner") , next thing I knew I was out of the car, flat on the floor on the high way! our car speeding ahead, I could see an oncoming vehicle behind me (I think it was a “Molue’ I don't remember very well).

My father stopped the car as soon as he could they raced to get me, but thank God I was not ground, smoothed or filed by the oncoming vehicle, and grateful I sustained only minor injuries iodine and cotton wool could solve.

I would be back soon.

2 truths , 1 lie

I've been tagged by Danny in the 2 truths, 1 lie meme,

( I have really been wondering what 'meme' means and who started this tag-tag thing?)

but since I have been tagged, I obey the tag :-)

OK I'll try to make is as simple as possible............. but then I think I should make mine 3 truths, ...1 lie...I like the number 3.

OK, I decided to obey the rules strictly, and I also want to avoid confusion due to inconsistency, a lot of people are used to 3 things not 4 things
I am deleting the above ( I only retained it so those who had read it before woudl not think 'deja vu' , it was there)
Its still 3 things; 2 truths and 1 lie

So here we go!

1. I was bugged in the school magazine when I was in the university

2. I have read the whole of my bible at least once before, I mean from Genesis to Revelation

3. I have fallen out of a very fast moving car on a major highway before

4. DELETED


I hereby tag the following on the 2 truths a 1 lie meme

1. Enkay

2. Beulah

3. Dammy

4. Rita ( not sure you've been tagged before)

5. Tobenna ( not seen your 2 truths, 1 lie, hope you have not been tagged on it before now)

6. YankieNaijababe ( hope you've not been tagged on this too)

anyway, let's all enjoy it......................


I know a lot of you know the rules to tagging..........well, I'd repeat here


The Tagging rules are:

1. You have to tell us 3 things about you, 2 truths and 1 lie

2. Link the person who tagged you.

3. Mention the rules in your blog.

4. Leave a comment on the blogs of those you have tagged

5. Tag 6 following bloggers, link them.


I hope the new year is already bringing new smiles to your faces!

IN Between..............

It’s Christmas time! ……..guess you’d say yea we know that!
Everyone is agog about the Christmas season…….
One cannot pretend to be immune to all the magic around......
Not with the dramatic lightnings, Christmas trees & all the décor I see at night

I've been hearing comments like Christmas is in the air! I hear xmas carols, all the lined up programmes etc……..
People are asking me, what're you doing for xmas? What're you giving for Xmas?
As I write, I know many people I want to give xmas cards to, families I would love to bless with something, and some special people in my life I want to appreciate……….

but I am just not excited......, maybe not yet
While I have a lot to be thankful for,….right now I just feel indifferent, is something wrong with me?
I am particularly not excited, and I don’t want to pretend I am.

So?........ I'm working...............
I have deadlines at work all through till the New Year.

But this has triggered something that's been on my mind for sometime.

Do we always have to do what everybody else is doing?

Give cards, send hampers to people u really don’t care about? or distribute gifts to people who already have enough? must I have the new look, new weight, and be in the mood people believe goes with the season?

I’ve got my own ideas of what festive periods should be…Loads of fun!
For me its either you go all the way to have a fantastic holiday or you are not having one!
I hate with a passion a life of ‘in-between’! I always love to go all the way…………

When I say I like to go all the way, I don’t in any way imply or insinuate sex or anything illegitimate........

(I believe in divine restraints, I mean I want to have it all and enjoy all I can within the limits God permits)

I don’t like the ‘half bread is better than none’ lifestyle.

I prefer the ‘what’s worth doing at all is what doing well’
If I can have the stone, why not the whole rock?
If I can hum the line, why not sing the whole song?
If I can taste it, why not savour the pleasure of chewing?

Why just touch, if I can feel and possibly embrace?
Why just take a sip, if it’s possible to have a drink?

Why test the waters with just my feet when I can swim in it?
Why lead me on, on a journey, when you are not willing to go all the way with me?
I just don’t like to stay in between! I love to go all the way!

I always want to be there, whole! with my all! Its either I’m there or here, or no where at all!

If I say I want to work, I like to do a proper job!
If I say I want to pray, I like to do so with all my heart and concentrate!

If I say I want to spend time with you, I like it to be quality time.

If I say I want to play, I really want to without any inhibition, and have a lots of fun!
If I say I’m your friend, I want be your friend with all I am and all I’ve got, I want to let down my guards, be myself and be real with you!

I'm tired of people, who laugh with you, but you’re still not sure of thier real motives
I'm tired of friends that you really cannot see through their eyes,
I’m tired of giving, just because it’s convenient or to impress
I'm tired of paying compliments when you don’t really mean them,...'just to say something'
I’m tired of managing; pretending, hesitating, wondering…it’s not working for me!

I don’t want to just eat, or fill up my stomach; I want to enjoy the food!

I dont't want to say I love you or I like you just to make you feel good! or to get something from you, I want to say it like I mean it!

I dont want to just call you to fufil all righteousness, deceiving u, I want to enjoy talking to u.
I don’t want to buy that outfit, just to buy something, I should like it, it should trip me!
I don’t want to just give you a gift, when I don’t feel it’s fantastic and good for you.
I don’t want to manage people, and pretend they are important to me, when it’s a lie.

I don't want to dress that way, be that way just because of what people would say
I don’t want to go visit those people, just because 'we have to go' and pretend when I really dont enjoy thier company.

I don't want to do it, just because 'that's how its done' or 'we do it every year, every month'
I don’t want to go on a fast just because its end of the year, or its beginning of a new year! everyone is doing it, and it has always been like that……when I’m not convinced I have a pact with God that the fast is a part of.
Tradition! oh my God! It tires and piques me!

I want to have children and really enjoy being their mother!
I want to give and give from the depths of my heart!
I want to serve, and serve whole heartedly!
I want to love God, and love with all of my soul, my heart, my mind and my all.
I want to fashion my life, build my home, and choose my style the way I believe its best for me

God knows I get tired of just being there, and I'm tired of getting tired of just being there!
Mediocrity irks me! false intentions, pretence and all wears me out!

I'm really not impressed with the person I have become; I've learnt to pretend, to send half-hearted prayers up to God, to laugh with people through my teeth, to 'just work' and to just do so many things that I am not convinced of or I dont feel like doing.

I miss that innocent lass that believed all, loved all, and accepted all!

that laughed with all her heart, received all, trusted all! and expected only the best all the time!

Call me indisciplined, with out restraint, un realistic, deviant or crazy…….
I love to feel like the wind, I like to be free!

I want to express myself; swirl, jump, laugh, cry, shout and dance when I want to & feel like!
I want be all I can, do all I can, live all I can, chop all the life I can chop, and die –EMPTY!

Now, I know I’m saying a lot of things at the same time; I just needed to rant a bit…let out some of the many things inside me.
But after all my ranting…………………………………………………………
I guess life is give and take (people love that cliché a lot)
Sometimes we have to learn to endure, accept somethings we cannot change, pretend a little (I know its called diplomacy),

And all I wanted to say from the beginning of this post is that; from my heart, I really wish for you and my self a very, very, very, very blissfully memorable Christmas!!!!
Joyeux noel!

AM I THANKFUL??

It’s exactly a year today……….............

That I returned from a short trip to find that I was ‘suddenly’ homeless; where I called my home some days ago was no more!

That my family now reside in a strange place called a guest house; that we no longer have ‘our’ own place, we have nothing to our name except the clothes on our backs!

That our house had been gutted by fire, a lot of fire fighting outfits in Lagos were there and all of them put together were unable to do anything to put the fire out.

I wept, I could hear everybody telling me to stop crying
I could see my siblings, tired and sore from many hours of weeping.
I looked at everybody....... and I knew there and then I was embarking on a journey.....to the world of uncertainty.
Oh my God! Am I dreaming?..... God! would I wake up and find out all this is not true?

I went to see the place………..
Our house…. now a heap of ruins, fire burnt like chops of firewood, desolate and empty!
It had become...all rubbles, the remains of a house that once was.

God knows how I liked to complain about that house, how old everything was, how I longed for a new place, my own space, my own territory, how I desired that we would stop living in ‘that’ house…….but not like this!

My pictures! My documents! My letters! My hard drive! My books! My love keeps! My CDs! My gifts, my favourite shirt, my sentimentals, my souvenirs, my write—ups, my awards, our clothes, our furniture, our ornaments, our certificates, her money, our investments, her business, his money, our this, my that……..all gone! Just like that?
All ‘my’ memories of my past; all gone up in flames!
I felt my history deleted, all the evidences that I existed erased!

And twas Christmas day…in church, I was supposed to be celebrating my saviours birth,
but my eyes…..my eyes could not stop the tears, I could not stop crying……

How did we suddenly become homeless? How did a home, a drama theater, a haven all of a sudden become a deserted land? How did the herd become scattered without a shepherd?
I had become a vagabond, a fox with no permanent place to lay my head
(forgive me to borrow for my self our Lord Jesus Christ’s description of himself)

I miss that home, I miss the laughter, I miss the gossips, I miss all the fights, the arguments, I miss my freedom, I miss ‘my comfort zone’ I miss my favorite little ‘travelling bag’ that contained all my ‘life important stuffs’, I miss the sanity, I miss the chaos, I miss the feeling of security that house gave me.

Its been a year …… (and I sigh),
I have learnt humility; to depend on people, to receive from others.
I have learnt endurance, I have learnt time heals.......
I have learnt not to be attached to anything.
I have learnt more of the content of the character of most of my friends.
I have learnt more about my own strengths, my weaknesses and my character.
I have known providence, I have learnt to abound and to abase.
I have seen love, care, deceit, lip service and in-sensitivity.
I have also found grace, and mercy, and I can’t keep it all to myself.
I have learnt that I should be THANKFUL!!!

And like the Americans……………its thanksgiving!
(I like the fact that I am posting this around the thanksgiving season)
They know how to (even if it is temporarily) forget all their problems and sorrows and be thankful!!!!
The bible says in ALL THINGS! We should give thanks!
I would not give the devil opportunity to rob me of a thankful heart!

I AM ALIVE!
I am thankful for life, I have lost dear people this year (they are no longer concerned about having a house to live in),
I am thankful for all my friends (not every one has the blessing of having good people stand by them through tough times),
I am thankful for all the progress I have made this year,
I am thankful I have a job,
I am thankful for my health,
I am thankful that you are reading this, you are alive and you’ve got eyes to read this post,
I am thankful for all the things around me that make me smile and laugh,
I am thankful for the smiles I see on the faces of my family members, we've been through a lot…but we can still smile, we can laugh, we still have joy and we can dance! We are survivors!
I am thankful for the hope of eternity, (some people are dead and in hell),
I am thankful, and I want to keep thanking……………

And can I ask? ………..are you learning to be thankful?
I know the year’s rounding up; we still have wishes and dreams yet to come to pass, but
Can I ask you to make a list of the things you are thankful for this year?

Like I read recently, we should learn to give God a sacrifice of praise, sometimes it’s a sacrifice, and it does not always have to be convenient.
I want to scream over the mountains! Tell of God’s faithfulness to me, despite me!
I have been unfaithful, I keep messing up, but He keeps dealing with me in mercy EVERYDAY!
I am tapping my feet, ready to dance, If not for anything, the holy scripture says, let everything that has breath praise! And thank!

Psalm 150
1 Praise the LORD.
Praise God in his sanctuary;
praise him in his mighty heavens.
2 Praise him for his acts of power; praise him for his surpassing greatness.
3 Praise him with the sounding of the trumpet; praise him with the harp and lyre,
4 praise him with tambourine and dancing; praise him with the strings and flute,
5 praise him with the clash of cymbals, praise him with resounding cymbals.
6 Let everything that has breath praise the LORD. Praise the LORD.

Psalm 124
1 “ If it had not been the Lord who was on our side……… Let ‘me’ now say!

Psalm 30
1 I will exalt you, O LORD, for you lifted me out of the depths and did not let my enemies gloat over me. .
11 You turned my wailing into dancing; you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy,
12 that my heart may sing to you and not be silent. O LORD my God, I will give you thanks forever.

Habakuk 3
17 Though the fig tree may not blossom,
Nor fruit be on the vines;
Though the labor of the olive may fail,
And the fields yield no food;
Though the flock may be cut off from the fold,
And there be no herd in the stalls—
18 Yet I will rejoice in the LORD,
I will joy in the God of my salvation.
19 The LORD God is my strength;
He will make my feet like deer’s feet,
And He will make me walk on my high hills.

I could go on, Psalm 149, Psalm 118……….on and on, I came across some interesting quotes too!

Cicero:
Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.

Francois de La Rochefoucauld:
Gratitude is merely the secret hope of further favors

H. U. Westermayer:
The Pilgrims made seven times more graves than huts. No Americans have been more impoverished than these who, nevertheless, set aside a day of thanksgiving.

Meister Eckhart:
If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, "thank you," that would suffice.

DO IT! ...dont just think it

Some months ago, some persons did me a real favour, they actually went out of their way to help me, and I know they must have sacrificed a lot.
I on my side had also spent a lot of time all these months thinking of how to show my gratitude, what to do for them, I’ve spent days day-dreaming of giving them something wonderful that would bring smiles to their faces, I have at different time thought of 'I will do this' and 'I would do that'...................but I never did! ……….I guess I didn’t feel it was time to, or I was waiting for a more appropriate time, atmosphere or occasion.

But 3 nights ago, one of them strongly expressed his displeasure and that he was disappointed that I never said thank you!
I was shocked, I was embarrassed! I felt like the ground opening up and swallowing me up!
I left the place ashamed, confused, sorry, and at the point of tears

Right now, I remember that incident with a heavy heart, I might be a lot of things, but I am not an ingrate!

In as much as I feel sorry for myself, (I still feel like and think I might cry again too)
I am trying to put the incident in perspective, I decided that day to post my thoughts,
I learnt from that incidence………they're lessons we all know: but I am reminding myself that;

- No matter how good or honorable one’s intentions are, its of no use if we do not carry them out.
- PEOPLE CANNOT READ MINDS! We need to be expressive, we should let people know exactly how we feel and what we think (and we should do that at the right time!)
- Its immaterial how grand or fantastic one’s plan is, they are still useless if not executed.
- Time, is of great essence, like the holy bible says ‘there is a time for everything’ we should not miss our times and chances for doing things………else we might loose that opportunity. I like to be like the men of Issachar of the Holy Scriptures ….”they understood the times” and "knew what Isreal should do"

As more thoughts come to my mind on the incident, I will post them. I saw the following thoughts and would like to share with you.

Now is the accepted time, not tomorrow, not some more convenient season.It is today that our best work can be done and not some future day or future year.It is today that we fit ourselves for the greater usefulness of tomorrow.Today is the seed time, now are the hours of work, and tomorrow comes the harvest and the playtime. W.E.B. Du Bois:

Don't strew me with roses after I'm dead.When Death claims the light of my brow,No flowers of life will cheer me: insteadYou may give me my roses now! Thomas F. Healey:

I don't wait for moods. You accomplish nothing if you do that. Your mind must know it has got to get down to work Pearl S. Buck:

The great French Marshall Lyautey once asked his gardener to plant a tree. The gardener objected that the tree was slow growing and would not reach maturity for 100 years. The Marshall replied, 'In that case, there is no time to lose; plant it this afternoon!' John F. Kennedy (1917 - 1963)

My 'own' Blog

I am a bit excited at the thought that I can publish my ownnnnnnnnnnnnn thoughts!, someone might ask 'who cares about what you think' ?but at least I am happy you are reading this, and it will be good to know your thoughts too! someday! and on my blog hopefully!

I am a fan of some people's blogs, and I have been inspired to own one, I hope to have a personalized website soon,!
I think about things around me a lot, the essence of life, the real meaning of life, why this happens? why does that not happen? what is the most import thing here on earth, heaven? what choices guarantee you what in life? what is fairness? etc the list goes on.....................

Well, while I welcome myself to my blog, I also welcome you too, I sincerely hope this blog would be very interesting, we all will ALWAYS find the time spent on this blog rewarding and there would always be somethign to look forward to everytime.

Seat belts fastened? lets hit the road....................................

Catch ya,

Olufunke